Men are quite happy to get sex on tap. However, only if the benefits outweigh the costs of GETTING sex. There is a specific costs vs benefits model that men apply when considering getting into a sex arrangement with a woman. See COSTS VS BENEFITS -THINGS TO CONSIDER.
Sex arrangements are what women call ‘relationships.’ They are not the same as ‘Friends with Benefits.’ (see FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS)
Men have always allowed women to believe that sex arrangements are relationships because it keeps the girls happy. Its not a big deal to call someone your girlfriend or say you are in a relationship with a girl, Men can stay confident in the secret knowledge that they share with their guy mates that their ‘girlfriends’ are really just ‘The Other Party in a Sex Arrangement.’
WHAT WOMEN WANT FROM MEN
Attention
Sex
Someone to fuss over
Someone to hang out with
Someone who likes her friends
Someone who gives proper massages/cuddles/presents
To fall in love and live happily ever after
WHAT MEN WANT FROM WOMEN
Sex. (Everything else they want, they get from their mates/family etc.)
COSTS VS BENEFITS -THINGS TO CONSIDER
Obviously you cant have a Sex Arrangement with someone you dont like as a person, or are not attracted to. (see FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS)
Sex Arrangements are about sex, any COSTS can be taken off the value of the sex to find out if it a potential Sex Arrangement is worth pursuing.
The following example can be applied to work out if a sex arrangement is benficial. It is recommended as a basic guide only, the Sex Total is given as 100:
SEX______________________________________100
TALKING__________________________________-5
CUDDLING_________________________________-10
HANGING OUT WITH HER FRIENDS______________-10
HAVING TO HANG OUT BEFORE/AFTER SEX_______-20
TOTAL SCORE_______________________________60
In the above example, the Total is 60. This is a pretty good deal. Anything less than 50 is not ideal- anything less than 20 is a waste of time. 25-50 is Friends with Benefits territory.
NOTE: If the sex is really great, this should be factored in. Great sex is worth a potential 200 starting figure, so the negatives would still leave a good cost vs benefit ratio. However, if she wants sex more than you do, -50.
Other things that can increase the Sex Total for a girl are:
- Sense of humour +20 (this is made up of +10 for laughing at your jokes, +10 for making jokes you think are funny. If she is funnier than you, -10)
- Intelligence +20 (as long as she is not smarter than you, in which case -10)
- Likes watching porn +80
- Good at cleaning/cooking +50
- Pays for things +50
As these things are all what make women attractive, they can be added to the Sex Total.
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
Friends with benefits are very casual Sex Arrangements with girls you don’t really like that much. The less talking the better, also they aren’t great looking, and the last thing you want to do is spend money on them. Due to the casual nature of friends with benefits, you can have more than one FWB at a time.
If you are too lazy to enter into any other type of Sex Arrangement then FWB is a good option.
NOTE: At some point or another you will find out (usually via a teary phone call/ abusive text/drunk FWB turning up at your house) that girls ONLY take up an FWB arrangement because they THINK YOU WILL END UP FALLING IN LOVE WITH THEM. Once they realise this is not the case you must be prepared to deal with the fallout, and the end of your FWB arrangement. It doesn’t matter if you said you only wanted to be friends at the outset, girls dont understand the concept of sleeping with your friends just for the sake of it, which is fair enough really.
FURTHER INFORMATION
Sex Arrangements can turn into Proper Relationships when:
- You end up really liking the girl
- You end up getting the girl pregnant
- The girl traps you into a financial commitment (eg. buying a house)
This is when people usually decide to get married.
Basically if you can find a girl who is funny, smart, attractive, a nymphomaniac with her own collection of porn, who is a great cook, cleans up after herself, great in bed, enjoys all the same hobbies/sports/music as you (but doesnt have to participate in doing things with you unless you want her to), has learnt not to drunk dial, had great cleavage, her own income, transport, and her own friends, then you should definitely enter into a Sex Arrangement with her, this is the perfect girl to have a Proper Relationship with in the future.
Although dont get into a Proper Relationship straight away- this is unnecessary, just keep it as a Sex Arrangement until she asks for more/starts giving you hints/ultimatums. At this point, the BENEFIT is huge and the COST is minimal, so there is no drama in getting into a Proper Relationship. Just don’t let on to the girl that the Sex Arrangement status has changed to Relationship, she ALWAYS thought you WERE in a relationship anyway.
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